Are you Judgemental of others? Recall a time when you judged someone. You knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that you were right, and they were wrong. Now recall how that turned out. Did the other person concede to your right judgement? Or did your relationship turn sour?
In the Voyages newsletter dated March-April 2008, Matt Bliton discusses Ken Wapnick’s The Healing Power of Kindness: Releasing Judgement. In his book, Ken says that “In order to judge anything rightly, one would have to be fully aware of an inconceivably wide range of things, past, present and to come… And one would have to be certain there is no distortion in
his perception, so that his judgment would be wholly fair to everyone on whom it rests now and in the future. Who is in a position to do this? Who except in grandiose fantasies would claim this for himself?” (Manual, 10.III.3:3, 6-7.)
The Course, stressing that everyone has similar experiences with similar sorts of results, offers a solution: “You have no idea of the tremendous release and deep peace that comes from meeting yourself and your brothers totally without judgement.” (Text, 3.VI.3:1). That includes judgement of others with illnesses.
Sometimes those of us that follow New Thought, or even ACIM secretly see others with illnesses as having those illnesses because they aren’t more righteous. This blaming the victim reminds me of a quote attributed to Hitler. As he looked out over suffering concentration camp inmates, he said, “They must be bad people to have made me so mad at them.” Can you feel the insanity of this justiﬁcation, this most twisted logic? That’s Judge-mental!
We address this by learning the atonement (at-one-ment) the Course teaches. It is not about relieving guilt. It is about recognizing the connection with all things. If I am connected, then what can I fear? In The Healing Power of Kindness, Wapnick stresses that a “teacher of God” is someone who sees that another person is suffering, and is mindful in response to that suffering, not Judge-mental.